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We all have faults. We all have issues. We all fall short sometimes. It’s a sliding scale. Sometimes you can be the wrong person for someone and they can be the wrong person for you.
When you try to do the right thing with the wrong people, it’s insane the things that can happen to you. I mean, it’s a trip. Have you ever tried to do the right thing with the wrong person and had it go horribly wrong? Of course you have. We all have.
In today’s Hustler Mindset philosophy, I just thought about it from a different angle. How can you do the right thing with the wrong person? I don’t believe in Karma. There are many people who do. Since there are so many “wrong” people to deal with, how do you deal with them?
One of the things I tell people in my groups is to get The 48 Laws of Power. I don’t suggest this so you can use these tactics against people but so you will know if people are using them against you. They are very common. You see it all the time.
How do you do the right thing with wrong people? I think the first thing you have to do is look at your intentions and your purpose. What are you trying to accomplish? Sometimes you’re doing the right thing with the wrong people because you haven’t clarified your intention. You haven’t clarified your purpose so you end up with anything and everything.
That’s happened to me twice and it had some very negative outcomes. I had to ask myself, “What did I do to bring this shit into my life?” Sometimes it is not your fault. If you are driving and paying attention and a drunk driver crashes into you, they are 100% responsible. You did nothing wrong. In the grand scheme of things, it happens. But, many times we do play a role in things not working out.
I’ve looked back at my path and come up with a few clues. I know this is going to sound really, really strange, but a long time ago, I cared deeply about what others thought of me. I would be around family and friends because I wanted to be liked. So, I’m doing the right thing with the wrong people. I realized I was doing this due to a lack of courage. That’s really what it was.
I’ll give you a quick story. When I became a business owner and I had to fire my first employee, it was something I didn’t want to do. I looked for advice online. I started asking people for advice. I procrastinated. The problem got worse.
Finally, I go to the guy and say, “It’s not working out. You’re late every day. I’m going to have to let you go.” He just looks at me and he says those words that everyone hates to hear. “But, I need my job.” Then I looked at him and said, “Then, why didn’t you really care about it?” At that point, I started to get more courageous.
There are a lot of people that will keep someone on the payroll for months and even years after they know they should fire them. People hate to fire people, because they want to be liked and they don’t want to rock the boat. It is costing them money and taking years off their life because the stress has to be massive. These are the things we do to ourselves when we ‘re trying to do the right thing with the wrong people.
I’ll give you another story. I was working for this company and I was being mistreated. Now, this was a different tactic. I did get pissed off. I wanted to quit that day but it was not really a good time for me to quit, so I came up with an action plan.
I started to treat customers differently. I started to ingratiate the customer to me and not the company. I sold me. It was a very important lesson because I learned how to sell for the first time. I thought I knew how to sale, but I had people asking for me. I had a different rapport with the clients. My outlook changed. Six months later I left and started my business. I haven’t worked for anyone else since.
Everything you do is going to be through, for and by people. I know this sounds cold and contrived, but you’ve got to learn how to classify and assign people. When I started treating people like they behaved, my life got easier. I will give you a chance. I hope you will rise up to your potential.
Here is another classic example of doing the right thing with the wrong person. Let’s say you are in a relationship with a person and you are treating them the way you want to be treated, but it’s not working out. They’re doing all this crazy stuff and you’re unhappy.
You’re putting in work. You’re there for that person. You’re doing the right thing. So, then you decide to go back to purpose and intention. You ask yourself some questions. “Did you get with this person because you were afraid of being alone? If you did, you’re trying to do the wrong thing with the wrong person for the wrong reasons.
There are a few times when you ask yourself certain questions and you’ll come up with the truth if you’re honest with yourself. Because, when you go back to intention and purpose, you get deeper and deeper into what is truly going on.
I remember talking to this one woman. She said she felt like I was interrogating her. I said, “I am interviewing you for the position of being my woman.” I continued, “If you’re interested, we can keep talking. But, if you think it’s too much, I can end the interview now.” I just sat back and waited. She said, “What were you saying?”
You can be really direct with people if you are clear about why you are being direct. I was being direct, not because I was being an ass, but because that was really how I felt. I can be mean. I can be really, really mean. There are many times when people accuse me of being mean and I am not being mean. I’m just being myself.
As you’re putting your business together, you have to ask yourself why you’re doing it. If you’re broke and want to make money, I totally get that. That motivation is only going to last so long, because the minute you get comfortable, you’re going to slack off.
When you do what you like to do, it’s not about the money. When you do what you should do for the right reasons, it’s not about the money. A lot of people who are really wealthy didn’t get wealthy chasing money. They got wealthy chasing service and building something. It all goes back to people.
So, ask yourself this question. Are you doing the right thing with the wrong people? If you are, then why?
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